LIFESTYLE // If You're A Train Wreck and You Know It, Raise Your Hand 🙋🏼

This post is going to be a little more “sharing my truth” than sharing my outfit, but I feel like this is something that needs to be addressed. I’m just going to say it... Instagram is a lie. No ones arm is actually that skinny, no ones house is actually that clean, and no ones child is actually that well behaved (can I get an amen from all of the moms of a-hole toddlers up in here?). Social media has caused our society to try to live up to impossible standards and I am honestly too tired, lazy, hungry, and apathetic to try to keep up all the time. The mirrors in my house probably haven’t been windexed since my mom last came to visit, I frequently lose track of how many days it’s been since I’ve washed my hair, I’ve gained about 15 pounds since I’ve been married, and my child eats chicken nuggets for dinner 3+ nights a week (mainly because he refuses to eat anything other than those and Cosmic brownies. He get it from his momma). 

Guess what? All of this is totally okay. I think becoming content with who are you and not trying to please everyone all the time has come with age for me. The thought of going out in public (and this does not mean goin out with my homegirls on a weekend, this is in reference to say... the grocery store) without full face makeup, heels, and 17 bracelets stacked up my arm would have been unimaginable for me 4 or 5 years ago. HEELS AT THE GROCERY STORE. I want to punch my 24 year old self in the face right now. As for 29 year old me, you’re lucky to catch me anywhere but the grocery store, and I will be rocking the workout clothes I just wore to a spin class, lookin like a swamp creature and smelling like a homeless person, and I am not scared of what someone I know will think if I run into them. Sure, I have my insecurities, but self-love is becoming more and more important to me as I realize the world doesn’t revolve around how many followers I have or what size clothes I wear (just for full disclosure I’m a size 6 about one day a year, and the rest of the time big mama is rocking a size 8. Shoutout to my thighs for never letting me down in making it hard to find jeans). I’ll be the first to admit that any Instagram post you see of me showing an outfit has been manipulated in every angle possible, and I probably had to take 76 of them to find one I didn’t hate. 

For 2018, I am making it my goal to have more self praise than self criticism. To everyone reading this- you are kicking butt at life right now, whether you think you are or not. I think sometimes we just need to hear that. You are beautiful, you’re a great mom (child and/or animal ;)), a bomb a$$  friend, and people in your life are thankful for you whether they tell you frequently or not. Don’t use Instagram as a tool to measure your life. Use your values, what’s important to you, and the accountability of those in your circle (not those of internet trolls who like to mom shame and cyber bully). As Ellen likes to say, be kind to one another. Lift each other up, and most importantly, lift yourself up. 

Shake your $ maker // Cash Back App for Shopping!

If you follow me on Instagram, you probably hate me by now (some probably for other reasons than what I’m about to say, ha! If that’s the case, my bad), but I can’t help but shout from the rooftops about this new app I’m obsessed with. I will start off by saying that NO, this is not a sponsored post. I am posting this on my own accord, and sharing my own personal feelings about this app. I also want to thank Heather Lindsey (@HeatherLLove) for introducing me to this app. Follow her, she’s the bomb.com. 

So this app called Dosh is a total game changer. It pays you CASH BACK for doing everyday, normal shopping that you already do! After posting about this a zillion times on Instagram and Twitter, I have gotten a lot of the same questions, and wanted to make the answers available to everyone (and also my DMs were getting a little out of control :)). Keep reading to find out how to be ballinnnnn (or just semi-baller status because it all goes into your savings and you’re on a super strict budget because you’re married to a finance guy like I am). 

1. Is this app legit? 

This is by far the most asked question. 100% YEEEESSSSS. I would never recommend something to so many people that was a security risk. They are completely safe and your information is absolutely protected. 

2. How does this app work?

Since I have not studied the terms and conditions, I  can only go off of my own personal experience. If you’re one of those people who likes to read the fine print and you find something even cooler about this app that I don’t include, let me know and I’ll edit to share with everyone!

So, basically, this is how it goes down. You download the app, link your debit or credit card and shop as you normally would (skip to question #4 to learn about how to shop). 

3. Do you get actual cash back, or just money to use within the app?

It is actual cash back that can be deposited into your PayPal account or checking account. I’m honestly not sure if you can use your balance to shop within the app (told you I didn’t read about all the features... 😬), but I would much rather deposit into my accounts. 

4. How do I shop and get cash back?

When you add your card to the app, you are adding it to not only pay for things, but it’s also giving the app permission to see the transactions made on your card. If you buy something at one of the places they offer cash back on, you get $! To get cash back for online purchases, you have to purchase directly through the link provided by the app under the “Online” tab. For hotels, you have to book directly through the “Travel” on the app. 

5. How long does it take for the cash back to show up in your app? 

While the terms say it can take up to 30 days for the money to show up in the app, I’ve seen it normally take 48-72 hours. For travel, the money is deposited anywhere from 24-72 hours after travel is completed. 

6. Does the app take out a fee like PayPal? 

Nope! What you see in your “wallet” is exactly what’s available to you!

I think this has answered the majority of the reoccurring questions I have been getting about this app. This is definitely the definition of “easy money”. So what are you waiting for? Download the app using this link, add your card, and get $5 for free! Happy shopping y’all!

Download here.